Tuesday, November 27, 2012

the story teller


http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html--------over 6 million people have seen this one.  there is a reason....it is a few years old, this year she did another one..also watch that one.......

Monday, November 26, 2012

Shocking list

I found this article/this list  shocking.  As a child I went to twelve years of Catholic school, daily Mass, belonged to Church Choir from 5th grade to 12 grade.  Raised in a Catholic Culture by Irish and German families there was never a thought to question anything connect to this Church and to this belief.

Each human being reading this has to question their values if they were raised in this Catholic culture.

 This is all related to the rape and of an Irish nine year old girl by a step father and the death that followed in the hospital.  All the documents are foot noted on Alternet News

  

50 Reasons to Boycott the Catholic Church

Last month in Ireland, Savita Halappanavar died, and she shouldn't have. Savita was a 31-year-old married woman, four months pregnant, who went to the hospital with a miscarriage in progress that developed into a blood infection. She could easily have been saved if the already doomed fetus was aborted. Instead, her doctors did nothing, explaining that "this is a Catholic country," and left her to suffer in agony for days, only intervening once it was too late.
Savita's death is just the latest in a long line of tragedies directly attributable to the doctrines and beliefs of the Roman Catholic church. I acknowledge that there are many good, progressive Catholics, but the problem is that the church isn't a democracy, and those progressives have no voice or vote in its governance. The church is a petrified oligarchy, a dictatorship like the medieval monarchies it once existed alongside, and it's run by a small circle of conservative, rigidly ideological old men who make all the decisions and choose their own successors.
This means that, whatever individual Catholics may do, the resources of the church as an institution are bent toward opposing social progress and positive change all over the world. Every dollar you put into the church collection plate, every Sunday service you attend, every hour of time and effort you put into volunteering or working for church organizations, is inevitably a show of support for the institutional church and its abhorrent mission. When you have no voice, there's only one thing left to do: boycott. Stop supporting the church with your money and your time. For lifelong Catholics, it's a drastic step, but it's more than justified by the wealth of reasons showing that the church as an institution is beyond reform, and the only meaningful response is to part ways with it. Here are just a few of those reasons:
1. Throughout the world, Catholic bishops have engaged in a systematic, organized effort going back decades to cover up for priests who molest children, pressuring the victims to sign confidentiality agreements and quietly assigning the predators to new parishes where they could go on molesting. Tens of thousands of children have been raped and tortured as a result of this conspiracy of silence.
2. Strike one: "What did the pope know and when did he know it? [3]" The current pope, when he was Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, was personally implicated in a case from the 1970s in which at least three sets of parents reported that a priest in his diocese had sexually abused their children. In response, Ratzinger assigned the priest to therapy, without notifying law enforcement, and washed his hands of the matter. That priest was back on duty in just a few short days and went on to molest more children.
3. Strike two: In 1981, again when the current pope was Cardinal Ratzinger, he got a letter from the diocese of Oakland asking him to defrock a priest who had acknowledged molesting two children. Ratzinger ignored this letter, and several followup letters, for four years. Finally, in 1985, he wrote back saying that more time was needed, and that they had to proceed very slowly to safeguard "the good of the Universal Church [4]" in light of "the young age of the petitioner" -- by which he meant not the victimized children, but the pedophile priest. (By contrast, when a rogue archbishop ordained married men as priests, he was laicized six days later. [5])
4. Strike three: In 2001, Cardinal Ratzinger wrote a letter, De Delictis Gravioribus, to all Catholic bishops advising them how to handle accusations of sex crimes by priests. There was no recommendation to contact the police, but rather an instruction for them to report such cases only to the Vatican and tell no one else: "Cases of this kind are subject to the pontifical secret. [3]"
5. Some church officials, like the American friar Benedict Groeschel, have blamed the epidemic of child molestation on sexually wanton boys who tempt priests into assaulting them. [6]
6. They threaten to cut off funding for immigrants' rights advocates because they sometimes work with gay-rights advocates [7]. Preventing immigrants from getting legal and medical aid is less important than ensuring the church isn't contaminated by even indirect contact with anyone who helps gay people.
7. In a sign of how ridiculously disproportionate and unhinged the church's martyrdom complex is, the current pope has compared expanding the rights of women and gay people to the murderous anticlerical violence of the 1930s Spanish civil war [8].
8. They've used their official UN observer status to team up with Islamic theocracies like Iran and Libya [9] to oppose calls for family-planning services to be made available in the world's poorest nations.
9. They've gone to desperately poor, AIDS-ravaged regions of Africa to spread the life-destroying lie that condoms don't prevent transmission of HIV [10].
10. In the mid-20th century, they appointed a special papal commission to study whether Catholicism should permit the use of birth control. When the commission almost unanimously recommended that they should, they ignored that recommendation and doubled down on their absolute ban on contraception [11].
11. They excommunicated the doctors who performed an abortion on a pregnant 9-year-old who'd been raped by her stepfather [12].
12. They did not excommunicate the stepfather.
13. Savita Halappanavar wasn't the first: Catholic-run hospitals are willing to let women die rather than get lifesaving abortions [13], even when a miscarriage is already in progress and no possible procedure could save the fetus.
14. They refused to provide contraception or abortion to women who were abducted and forced to work as prostitutes [14], and then filed a lawsuit complaining it was violating their religious freedom when the government took away their contract [15].
15. In Poland, they ordered politicians to vote for a law banning IVF and threatened to excommunicate any who didn't comply [16].
16. They were a major source of the pressure on the Komen Foundation that led to its disastrous decision to cut ties with Planned Parenthood [17].
17. They've announced an inquisition into the Girl Scouts [18] to get to the bottom of its association with morally suspect groups like Doctors Without Borders and Oxfam.
18. They've been one of the major forces attacking Obamacare, filing lawsuits arguing that non-church Catholic employers should be able to decide whether or not employee health insurance plans will cover contraception [19]. This is effectively an argument that a woman's employer should be allowed to force her to pay more for medical coverage, or even place it out of her reach altogether, based on his religious beliefs.
19. In Australia, they allegedly derailed a police investigation of an accused pedophile [20], putting pressure on higher-ups to get an investigating officer removed from the case.
20. They demanded that Sunday school teachers sign a loyalty oath [21] agreeing to submit "will and intellect" to the proclamations of church leaders.
21. Some top church officials, including the current pope [22], have advocated denying communion to politicians who support progressive and pro-choice political ideas [23]. Notably, although the church also opposes preemptive war and the death penalty, no conservative politician has ever been denied communion on this basis.
22. They've cracked down on American nuns for doing too much to help the poor and not enough to oppose gay marriage [24], condemning them for displaying a seditious "feminist spirit."
23. In Germany, where parishioners pay an officially assessed tax rate to the church, they've tried to blackmail people who don't want to pay the church tax [25], threatening to fire them from jobs in church institutions. In some cases, if the person opts out but later loses the paperwork, they demand on-the-spot repayment of decades of back taxes [26].
24. In America, bishops have compared Democratic officeholders, including President Obama, to Hitler and Stalin [27] and have said that it jeopardizes a person's eternal salvation if they don't vote as the bishops instruct them to.
25. They fight against equal marriage rights for same-sex couples. It's not enough for the Catholic church hierarchy that they refuse to perform church weddings for gay and lesbian couples; they want to write that prohibition into the civil law and deny marriage equality to everyone who doesn't fit their religious criteria, and have invested vast amounts of money and effort into doing so. In the 2012 election cycle alone, the church spent almost $2 million in an unsuccessful fight to defeat marriage-equality initiatives in four states [28].
26. They've compared gay sex to pedophilia and incest and called for it to be forbidden by law [29], saying that "states can and must regulate behaviors, including various sexual behaviors."
27. They've shut down adoption clinics rather than consider gay people as prospective parents. [30] The church's official position, apparently, is that it's better for children to remain orphans or in foster care than to be placed in a loving, committed same-sex household.
28. They barred an anti-LGBT bullying group, anti-teen-suicide foundation from a Catholic school ceremony [31], explaining that the group's mission is "contrary to the teachings of the Catholic church."
29. They told a teenager he wouldn't be allowed to go through confirmation because he posted a pro-gay-rights status message on Facebook [32], and they expelled a preschooler from a private Catholic school because his parents were lesbians [33].
30. They have a history of dumping known pedophile priests in isolated, poor, rural communities [34], where they apparently assumed that local people wouldn't dare to complain or that no one would listen if they did.
31. They've given huge payouts -- as much as $20,000 in some cases -- to pedophile priests [35], to buy their silence and quietly ease them out of the priesthood, after specifically denying in public that they were doing this.
32. When the Connecticut legislature proposed extending statute-of-limitations laws to allow older child-abuse cases to be tried, the bishops ordered a letter to be read during Mass instructing parishioners to contact their representatives and lobby against it [36].
33. To fight back against and intimidate abuse-survivor groups like SNAP, the church's lawyers have filed absurdly broad subpoenas demanding the disclosure of decades' worth of documents [37].
34. In the Netherlands, some boys were apparently castrated in church-run hospitals after complaining to the police about sexual abuse by priests [38].
35. When a Catholic official from Philadelphia, William Lynn, was charged with knowingly returning predator priests to duty, his defense was to blame those decisions on his superior, Cardinal Anthony Bevilacqua, thus acknowledging that the corruption reaches to the highest levels of the church. [35]
36. When confronted with hundreds of complaints about child-raping priests spanning decades, a Dutch cardinal used the same "we knew nothing" excuse once given by Nazi soldiers [35]. Several months later, it was reported that this same cardinal had personally arranged to move a pedophile priest to a different parish to shield him from accusations.
37. In one case, Mother Teresa successfully persuaded the church to return a suspected pedophile priest to duty because he was a friend of hers [39]. Eight additional complaints of child abuse were later lodged against him.
38. In yet another case, they appointed a priest with a history of child molestation to a board that advises the church on what to do when they get reports of priests molesting children. [40]
39. And after all this, they've had the audacity to plead for money and ask parishioners to pick up the tab for legal costs and settlements [41].
40. They abducted tens of thousands of babies from unwed mothers who gave birth in Catholic-run hospitals all over the world [42] throughout the 20th century, forcing drugged or helpless women to give their newborn children up for adoption against their will.
41. They tried to have the Indian skeptic Sanal Edamuruku charged with blasphemy and imprisoned [35] for debunking a claim of a miraculous weeping statue.
42. They publicly supported the Russian Orthodox church's decision to have the punk band Pussy Riot charged and imprisoned for blasphemy. [43]
43. Their finances are a disorganized mess, lacking strong accounting controls and clear internal separations [44], which means parishioners who give to the church can have no assurance of what the money will be used for. According to an investigation by the Economist, funds meant for hospitals, cemeteries and priests' pensions have been raided to pay legal fees and settlements in several diocesan bankruptcies.
44. They've said in public that the sexist prohibition on women priests is an infallible part of Catholic dogma [45], and hence can never be changed.
45. They've silenced priests who call for the ordination of women and other desperately needed reforms [45], exhorting them to instead show "the radicalism of obedience."
46. They've excommunicated at least one priest for advocating the ordination of women [46].
47. They lifted the excommunication of an anti-Semitic, Holocaust-denying bishop [47] who also thinks women shouldn't attend college or wear pants.
48. When it comes to the question of who's financially responsible for compensating the victims of sex abuse, they argue that priests aren't employees and therefore the church bears no responsibility for anything they do [48].
49. They canonized Mother Teresa for doing little more than offering a squalid place for people to die. [49] Outside observers who visited her "Home for the Dying" reported that medical care was substandard and dangerous, limited to aspirin and unsterilized needles rinsed in tap water, administered by untrained volunteers. The millions of dollars collected by Mother Teresa and her order, enough to build many advanced clinics and hospitals, remain unaccounted for.
50. They announced that voluntary end-of-life measures, such as terminal patients' directives for when they wish to have a feeding tube removed, won't be respected at Catholic hospitals. [50]

Sunday, November 18, 2012

wisdom from a writer/gardener



Carol’s Rules for Introspection

by Carol Deppe


1. Never look into your own soul before breakfast, or when tired or hungry.

2. When you do look into your own soul, remember to be gentle. Nobody’s soul can take all that much examination.


another interesting idea not in the national media
http://www.alternet.org/economy/5-ways-most-americans-are-blind-how-their-country-stacked-wealthy

November, Nuturtion and Nuts

       This month marks a time that diets of many of us changes along with the weather.  I look at every store what they are pricing their potatoes and squash at and if it is organic and priced favourably I buy.  They both keep so well in my garage.  The work bench has been cleared in the garage to store my assortment of squashes.  Plastic milk cartons are used to store my potatoes and then I cover them with old coffee bean bags made of burlap.

       Squash,  I have learned that they should have a stem on them, no soft spots and can not touch each other.  The author from Oregon, Carol Deppe's book, THE RESILIENT GARDENER -  FOOD PRODUCTION AND SELF-RELIANCE IN UNCERTAIN TIMES writes about the skill of gardening but also about nutrient and storing food and eating during the winter.  Granted,  she is wheat sensitive she relies on potatoes and squash more than some of us but then again she maybe wise like the native Americans were live on this land.  Her favourite squash is sweet meat but she covers more than I have ever heard of or seen in stores.  From her I have grown to respect the humble vegetable and understand the value of it. 

         A week ago I saw a display of organic potatoes priced right.  It must be my Irish blood but I like potatoes, more in the winter perhaps, but I really feel that this is one vegetable that should be organic or home grown.   That great recipe that Irish invented, colcannon,  using cabbage and potatoes with cream and butter is over the top good.  I modify it some what but still enjoy on a winter's night.  Add a slice of squash, I am eating well.

         Last week, Dr. Weil on an afternoon show and this is a man that I have read for 20 years.  He had his top list of staying health and simple adjustments to make for a longer healthier life.  Iodine is a mineral he suggested that many Americans should be made aware of and watch for the signs of needing it.  If one is very sensitive to cold, puffy eyes along with a tireness, the lack of Iodine maybe the problem.  Consuming more dairy, ocean fish, sea weed or kelp would take care of the shortage in our body.  That sardine and cracker lunch our parents had is still a wise idea or the Asian idea of miso soup or a little sea weed in the soup pot takes care of this iodine problem.

        Weil went on to say that an all raw diet is not a great idea as some foods are better consumed cooked like tomatoes but other foods are most beneficial  if raw like garlic and asparagus.  That garlic news, about eating raw is new to me.  I throw garlic into my beans, potatoes and just about any pot on the stove.  Now I will learn to crush garlic, leave time and air work it's magic and then put it into olive oil and use it on food.

        Finally pistachio nuts, a serving of 47, calories of 158 and it gives us 85% of our need of Vitamin C for the day.  This is a good low fat nut and we burn calories opening up the nut, doesn't get better than that. 

Monday, November 12, 2012

Flying solo in a developed world

      I was having lunch the other day with a couple friends and we were discussing the state of the world and particular the United States.  The comment was made that often new items are shipped to developing countries that could be a great help right here for our poor or less fortunate.  

      Remember those computer that cost about a $100 and are used as a light for the family in rural areas of Africa and Asia,  featured on 60 Minutes.  The guy was from MIT that design it.   That was a few years ago.  Then there are water purification kits simple to use and very inexpensive.  Right now there are many spots in the U.S. that are having issues with unclean water.  Are these items even available for those people?

        Yesterday I heard the background story about the insurance whistle blower, Wendell Potter.  This man witness a free clinic, Remote Area Medical, in rural Virginia and realized that they have been sending medical supplies overseas to help when in fact this country needs that same help.  People have travelled 200 miles, stood in the rain to get treatment outdoors for illnesses because they did not have insurance.  Remember, one gentleman recently that said anyone can go to the emergency room and get taken care of in this country.  Well,  shortly after that event in 2007, Potter resign his position with CIGNA and become a whistle blower.  Later on he apologized to Micheal Moore for the industry's attack on him personally and his movie Sicko.  I had always wondered why Wendell Potter had a change of mind and heart about his profession.  It shows how many people live as they do in third world countries right here among us.

        http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/11/10/warm-up-cook-recharge-a-smart-tool-born-of-hurricane-sandy-aftermath.html  This item has come to the public attention because of Sandy and the two weeks without electricity in some areas that is going on right now.   With all the weather changes going on in this country we should all prepare like we are flying solo and self sufficient.  With this item you can cook, get a little heat and charge up the phone.  The interesting comments after this article are worthy of reading.  

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Book Review

               I have recently read a collection of letters and journals entries of Anne Morrow Lindbergh. It is a new publication using materializes from the years of 1947- 1986, basically her age from 40 though 80.   The book is titled AGAINST WIND AND TIDE.

               I have always found her writing to be thoughtful and well written but this book gives a chance to see how an individual grows and changes over a life time.  As a wife, a mother and a writer she explores which demands she  focuses on and writes of her successful or failures  as the years go by.  Anne Lindbergh always though of herself as a creative person and a writer in equal part to the role of wife and mother.

              Charlie, her husband, the record now shows had numerous lady friends and fathered seven other children while having two relationships in Germany with two sisters.  I read this book and there is not a hint of these events but there is a sense that he is gone more than he is home.  I conclude in the end that it is not that he is running from this marriage but it is his nature of restlessness and his need for movement that keeps him from any settled home life. The letters over the years show that Anne becomes more interested in Charles as an editor to her work than a companion to her daily life.  In the reality of life, she finds companionship with others and learns to enjoy being alone.

              In the course of reading the book there are examples of how to write a thoughtful letter for each of life's tragedies, comforting letters, long letters of encouragement for young people in doubt of their own worth or abilities or going though misfortune.  Her journal entries explores her feeling about unwanted pregnancies, endless demands of being famous and how to find that balance. The book ends as she is facing the loneliness of widowhood. 

             Half way though the book, I read sentences that something made me stop and reread them, then I started to write some down.  Some examples are "her efficiency in too many ways tempts her in too many things"...  or this one describing a gathering of people  "everyone is in a honeymoon stage of excitement over each other" . Another example is  "she just seems to have a music box playing in her all the time--very happy".  My favorite " I feel I am wading through molasses, I do it so inefficiently  and slowly. "  This last one, about molasses, is the current period on my life. 

             After knowing the clear, hard fact about this woman and her marriage, the surface question would be why did she continue to stay married, my conclusion,  they had a very deep respect for each other.  They shared fame, tragedies and the early experiences of flying together,  these formed a bond that carried them for a lifetime. In the end this shows, Anne keep Charles's secret about his terminally ill condition from everyone, as he wanted it.  Charles planned out each and every detail about his finial year and days, they spend much of the last year together. He choice to be buried before the world knew of his death.  No one explains the pain of being famous better than Ann has in this book.

            This collection includes a copy of a speech she delivered at the Cosmopolitan Club,  the topic was, ' Tasks at the End of Life'.  Anne Lindbergh up in her years, suggested that life is like the game of musical chairs. "Life is full of starts and stops, stumbles and jerks, and suddenly confused by standstills."  The speech goes on, how at times in life, we are confident about who we are and then they are times we stand alone.  The periods of no movement at all, movement of panic, moments of insight and renew, they are all there, over a life time. 

           Lindbergh then continues the speech with her place, at that moment, of living alone and being a widow.  She closes with the beauty of quoting poetry and reaching for the meaning of what life is about for her.  The pure joy of the simplest things has the most meaning to her and she writes it so elegantly that for the rest of us, it is a piece we can reflect on and treasure.